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Do You Really Know Your Why?
You know that "thing" you want to do - write a book, travel the world, become a speaker... Whatever your thing is - do you know way deep down at your gut level WHY you want to do it? It's not as easy as you'd think. It takes a lot of "why's" to get there. Because I...
Create a Life You Love
Does having a life you love mean you're happy every minute of every day? Of course not. If anyone tells you they are - run! Those Internet ads with a guy grinning from ear to ear next to an exotic car with a mansion in the background make me laugh - then they make...
When It’s Good to Go With The Flow
Ever have one of those days where all you want to do is work on "that thing" but life has other plans? Yes, we all have. How do you deal with them? Do you let them get under your skin or do you go with the flow? We're having work done at home and I've chosen to...
I Have ADHD
Most of the time, I like my ADHD. I received the formal diagnosis in my forties but I always suspected that my brain isn't wired like everyone else's. By the time I was in 4th grade, I'd developed a fascination with how our brains work. I chose "Left Brain Right...
How My Dog Helped Me Focus My Energy on What Matters
Kaida, our new dog, taught me a lot about focus in our first week together. Like all of our past dog companions, she is a rescue. In her case, it was from the illegal dog meat trade in South East Asia. First, a little background. When we adopted her, we knew there...
3 Powerful Lessons from my Immigrant Grandmother
My Grandmother taught by example.This beautiful indigenous immigrant from Mexico was one of the strongest and most insightful women I know. There is Always Enough No matter how many people showed up at our door, my grandmother created a feast. Homemade tortillas...
Fear Will Crush Your Soul
You hate your job but you you can't bring yourself to leave. You tell yourself you have to think about your family. Your kids will be in college soon. You need the stability of a paycheck. You drag yourself to work, put your time in and try to decompress on the...
Don’t Let your Body Wreak Havoc on Your Mind
An Asthma and Allergy specialist introduced me to the Mind/Body connection when I was six years old. After a series of tests, he told me it was hard for me to breathe because I had Asthma and allergies. He explained what Asthma was and showed me pictures of what...
Embrace Growth Mindset Thinking
Have you ever called yourself an idiot, or worse, when something didn't turn out as planned? Stop that! An outcome doesn't define you or your worth. The growth mindset looks at an unfavorable outcome as a learning experience, not a failure. It's ok to feel upset,...
Shift Your Mindset for a Kick-Ass 2018
Shifting your mindset sounds like a secret Ninja skill. What does it mean? According to Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., Author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success we either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. In the most basic terms, people with a "fixed"...
Kiss Resolutions Goodbye
Somewhere deep in your subconscious is the belief that resolutions are meant to be broken. Try something different this year. Reflect on what worked well for you and what you'd like to improve. Once you've identified that - create a plan with measurable...
Every Mindset Has a Story
The story we tell ourselves about who we are and what we can do starts before we ever set foot in school. Fascination with people and success came early in my life. It started with my family—wondering what made my dad want to work for someone else when three...
Don’t Piss on My Cornflakes
https://youtu.be/B03dFMG8nR4 The first few times I watched this Peter Shankman video I laughed because as a runner training for a half marathon, I could relate. I came back to it later when I needed a laugh and found yet another message. Not the message that there...
Mindset and Body
So, yesterday I went to my first Bikram yoga class, a.k.a. “hot yoga”. I have friends that take or have taken Bikram classes and I’ve heard stories about passing out, having to leave, and my personal nightmare - throwing up in class. Trying something new can feel...
Procrastination Sucks
2011 - New Year, New goals, same challenge with procrastination. When I say procrastination sucks, I mean it will literally suck the energy, momentum and life right out of you. It's been my Achilles heel for as long as I can remember. Most of the time it's just a...
Perserverence Mindset
A few days ago I talked about the fear mindset and how it can really hold you back. The antidote to that of course is action. But once you get into action mode, the next step is perseverance. I’d like to introduce you to Naomi Dunford, someone I absolutely love....
Overcome Fear
Sometimes you just have to tell yourself to shut the FUD up – FUD, meaning Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt… Fear can paralyze the most ambitious people and plans. In and of itself, fear isn’t a bad thing, it keeps us safe by alerting our senses to real danger – a bad...
Taking Action
Yes, my age old theme – taking action. Doing the same old things will only get you the same old results. A couple of days ago I found out that Greg Reid, one of my favorite authors was going to have a book signing today at a nearby bookstore. The timing was perfect...
RIP Patrick Swayze
Just a short post to say farewell to a man who became the epitiome of living life. Because of his fame, he fought his battle with cancer in the public eye. With grace and dignity, Patrick found a way to battle his disease while pursuing his dreams and...
Mindset for Success
I know, I’m still lagging in posting but working my way back. It’s been quite a year so far, with tears of loss and pain mixed in with those of joy and success. It’s been that kind of year for almost everyone I know. When you’re filled with self-doubt or a feeling...
Focus, Balance and Death
It's time to come back to my poor neglected blog. I've written a million posts in my head between the last one and now. One of the posts was about staying focused which related to my training for the marathon in memory of my mom-in-law. I'm happy to say that I...
Mindset of Gratitude
There are certain topics that are timeless. The one that has been on my mind for quite some time is one that feels most appropriate for my life right now - The mindset of gratitude. One of the most important gifts we can give ourselves is the ability to be grateful...
Valentines Day Mindset
No, I haven’t completely lost my mind. I know Valentines Day is over, that’s actually the point of this post.. The flowers are starting to fade and wither and the cards and gifts are already becoming a distant memory. So what are you doing to keep the Valentines...
Taking Action
Time to literally walk the talk! I'm going to be walking the San Diego Rock 'n' Roll Marathon in memory of my mom-in-law, Bryna Kerska, whom I mentioned in an earlier post. I have asthma and even though I am active and walk on a regular basis, this distance while...
Live Inauguration Feed
Regardless of your political affiliation, today is a momentus day in our history. Enjoy the live feed. Visit msnbc.com for Breaking News, World News, and News about the...
Your Mindset
I was so prepared to start 2009 on top of my game, my “stop making resolutions” musings were waiting for me to hit the post button, I was happy, rested and into the full swing of a new year. On January 3rd, I received a call letting me know that my beloved...
The only constant is change
It's that time again..Time to figure out what worked in 2008 and enhance it and figure out what didn't --- and change it.. That's the mindset you have to adopt as you go into 2009. I know you've heard it before, but if you really want to see different results,...
Bloggers Unite, World AIDS Day
Even with the abundance of information in today’s world, many people hear the word AIDS and chalk it up as a “gay disease”. This unprejudiced and devastating disease affects people of all ages, ethnicities and sexual orientations. In 1991, basketball Hall of...
Living Life
In my haste to leave, I never hit the "Publish" button for this post. oops, guess I really needed that vacation! Pictures and stories later this week. This is a very short post on my way out. Last week my husband and I celebrated our 15th anniversary and in a few...
Stay Balanced
We’re all busier than ever and this year in particular everyone is probably on information overload. In the midst of the financial and political turmoil and an already full plate, we have to remember to stay balanced. It’s ok to play! We’ve gotten so used to the...
Visualization
Long before visualization was all the rage in mainstream, it was something I did without even realizing the power it held. When I was little, I always dreamed of a better life - obsessed is probably a better word. When I was in my late teens, a friend passing...
Mindset in Children
Much has been written about success, achievement and mindset for adults, yet there seems to be a fairly small selection as it relates to children. I find this puzzling because childhood is such a critical time in the development of self esteem, which is more often...
Making a difference
If you ever thought that one person couldn't make a positive difference, take a moment to watch this video. It may start out a little slow, but stick with it. To watch this video is to know what I aspire to. My path may end up being different, but the end result is...
Your gut and brain
Call it intuition, a sixth sense, or your “gut”. I like to think of it as the deep dark recesses of your brain. The sooner you learn to access and trust this powerful resource, the sooner you can tap into real change in your life. Whether it's in business or a...
San Diego Earthquake
Yes we felt the earthquake in San Diego, and yes we're ok - thank you for thinking of us. For those of you going home from Comic-Con, we just wanted to give ya a little excitement on the way out! I was on the first floor of a two story building and the...
Randy Pausch
Randy Pausch: October 23, 1960 – July 24, 2008 If you haven’t watched this video, please make the time to watch it. If you have watched it, make the time to watch it again, and then give yourself the gift of living as Randy Pausch did. Not just waking up every...
Living a purposeful life
Painfully reminded by the date of my last post, it’s amazing how quickly time passes. I’ve been remiss in my posts lately, but good things are happening. I’m focused more than ever on living a purposeful life. What does that mean exactly? By definition: Having...
Promote Tolerance
Sometimes despite the best efforts to surround yourself with like-minded individuals someone sneaks in under the radar and jolts you into a world you wish didn't exist. Something I would consider a hate mail assaulted my inbox last night night. It came from a...
Twitter and Life
Jason Lee Miller of WebProNews recently asked "whats the point of twitter?" http://www.webpronews.com/topnews/2008/04/14/whats-the-point-of-twitter I love Jason's integration of philosophy and technology. This same question could be applied to much of life and the...
You Have to Take Action to See Change
When I attended the celebration I mentioned in my last post, I was re-inspired to continue my quest to give back to the world. Five weeks ago I joined a group called “The 16 Steps to success” which is being taught by Jack Humphrey...
Did you Do it?
So, did you do anything differently last week, or did you stay in your comfort zone? Continuing down the path of trying new things, my husband and I attended the 25th Anniversary celebration for "Foundation For Change" http://www.foundation4change.org/ an...
Wake Up!!!
What did you do differently yesterday? Did you wake up at the same time, take the same route to work, follow the same old routine? Do you even remember the drive in to work or school? It's nice, comfortable and predictable. It allows us to live on autopilot. The...
Mastering Online Marketing
Mitch Meyerson, founder of the Guerilla Marketing Coaching Program and author of countless books does it again . "Mastering Online Marketing" is well thought out, with a wealth of information in an easy to read and digest format. For once, I am not left drowning in...
Life After the Having It All Challenge….
My last entry was about the amazing in-person meeting of our like-minded community. The "challenge" has officially ended, but I choose to see it as morphing into a beginning. The lessons learned were deep and lasting. For six months we were immersed in learning...
Beyond Words
Have you ever had an experience that words just can’t adequately describe? That sums up the last few days for me. It was the face to face portion of our Having It All Challenge. We were finally able to meet the people that we’ve spent the last five and a half...
Planning for 2008
How many of you are thinking about New Years Resolutions? This time last year, so was I. This year I can happily say that New Years Resoloutions are a thing of the past for me. Don't get me wrong, planning is great, resolving, not so much. As part of our Having it...
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
One of the scariest things about joining the challenge was the thought of “putting myself out there”. I am a very private person by nature, yet I would soon be sharing my innermost desires with complete strangers and now here I am blogging to the world about my...
Can We Really Have it All?
I am currently going into my third month of John Assaraf’s “Having It All” Challenge (HIAC). I hesitate to use the word “program” because it’s so much more than that. It’s a life transforming course comprised of calls, webinars, podferences, guest speakers, seven...